Today I want to share with you my thoughts about making decisions. I try to use this way to make my decisions about serious things.
Never make any decision when you are under influence of the strong emotions. You already know it. Breath, relax, stay alone, but do not do any fast and cruel decisions. Your decision can split your life: before and after. You must do it when you can think rationally. Only this way helps you to control the flow of your life. If you feel strong emotions – stop yourself. Scream, fight with your internal dragons, do it inside your mind. Be silent, do not act, do not say a word. Under the influence of emotions you can do a stupid move. You can not Undo in real life. You must be calm! Stay calm and cool.
Sleep overnight before making any move. It is an old trick. Here is a famous quote of Scarlet from the movie “Gone with the Wind”: “I can’t let him go. I can’t. There must be some way to bring him back. Oh, I can’t think about this now! I’ll go crazy if I do! I’ll think about it tomorrow. But I must think about it. I must think about it. What is there to do? What is there that matters? Tara! Home. I’ll go home. And I’ll think of some way to get him back. After all… tomorrow is another day!” Tomorrow you will be calm and can take the best decision than today. Use it always. It will help you to avoid doubts about your past.
Analyze your previous decisions. Analyze your decisions, don’t blame yourself about them. Blaming doesn’t help. If you analyze your decisions you will avoid mistakes!
Draw a map for your decision. Are you calm? Ok, in this case continue. The map helps you get from one point to another. Take a pen and write down your problem. If you need to decide something it means that there is a problem! Draw arrows and write all possible decisions with their possible pros and cons. Choose the best decision and make a plan how to achieve it.
It reminds me chess. Each time when I am nervous, I choose the wrong moves, make mistakes. I can not see the all game, I see only one or two moves. But it is not enough to win against the strong opponent. Life is a very strong player. If you want You must be patient, calm and overthink it.